I believe with everything I am most people have far more things that are wonderful about them than flaws. We just focus on our own flaws than we do our good things. Fuck that noise.
New Rule:
We all practice everyday focusing on two good things about ourselves when we find ourselves focusing on something we see as bad.
Addendum to said rule:
Stop letting bullshit, unattainable standards be our ruler for how we judge ourselves. We are what we are. Try to be healthy, try to be strong, try to be kind, try to be compassionate. The rest is a bunch of bullshit. Having great cheek bones doesn’t make you a great person. It might make life easier because we allow society to judge us on stupid, inconsequential shit, but it doesn’t truly make us better. Maybe it’s time we stop letting society pull that crap on us while we are at it.
Society is the way it is by our consent. We can change it. It won’t be easy, but this stuff has to stop.
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I have a rule for myself lately: every time I look at my reflection and think something bad I have to think of four good things about myself to counteract it. It is slowly making me see only the good.
Also, I’ve made it a point to not say anything against myself, even when it is a group of girls and everyone else is saying “oh god, my thighs are huge!” “no girl, look at mine, you look good, I look awful!” As women we get into this way too much, and as the biggest girl in my year at school I know that it hurts me to see all these little things discussing their “giant ass” while I sit there with an ass three times as big. Let’s just skip straight to the “you look great!” and leave out all that bullshit about how bad we look. You can give a compliment without saying something disparaging about yourself–and your self esteem can help to lift up others’.